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Do Men Like to See Their Wive’s Imperfect Body?

I participate in an online marriage forum as a resident therapist called Talk About Marriage.  I recently came across a forum post where a wife was wondering if husbands really like seeing their wives naked despite their bodies being imperfect.  The original poster was concerned about her body image because of the effects of having children and breastfeeding.

She outlined some of her concerns with her body (i.e. sagging, scars, etc.) and then said, “My question is, is it possible that he actually wants to see me naked anyway?”

I thought I would publish a few of the responses.

Yes, he wants to see you nude.
You may think you look bad but I`m telling you he most likely doesn`t agree with you.
My wife is very petite, c-section scar, breasts that seem to inflate and deflate depending on time of the month, eating habits..whatever. All these things bother her.
I think she`s a goddess. If she hid her body from me it would seriously irritate me to no end.


Conduct an experiment.
Three nights a week, walk around the bedroom totally naked. Then – three nights with a long shirt and granny panties. Alternate – three and three.
Keep track of how often he initiates sex – or touches you – or compliments you.
Or – you can take our word for it – he wants to see you naked!!!

And from the original poster again:

Hearing how men really feel, is tremendously encouraging! The filters we sometimes see ourselves through are often so debilitating, they hold us back, if we let them. Media, porn, etc…makes us feel like if we aren’t at that level, somehow we are sub-par, physically at least. The fact that men check out other women, watch porn, things like that- I think those things make it hard for a girl like me to feel I measure up… because a self-conscious girl doesn’t feel all that sexy~however I realize it’s not up to him to make me confident- that’s an inside job. BUT- knowing that most of what holds me back is ME, makes it so much easier to feel comfortable just being myself & not stressing about what he’s going to think.

More from other posters:

My wife went through three C-sections to have our kids. Her stomach is nothing like it was or what she wants it to be. And yet it is so very sexy to me. It is a constant reminder of her gift to me of our children – what she went through so that we could have our three wonderful kids. It is a part of her and our life together, and makes her that much more attractive to me.

Join him in the shower soon He won’t object. Promise.

sexy is an attitude. act sexy and you will be sexy.

Don’t be surprised when your husband tells you that you are getting better as you get older.
Many men continue to fall deeper in love with their wifes.
I have been married for 28 yrs and my wife is more beautiful and sexy than ever.

The original poster again:

I am so glad I decided to write here~ You all are awesome :-) We showered together about 2 months ago- it went very..ahem…well & he thanked me for inviting him in with me.. I thought it was interesting that he thanked me..that made an impression on me, so ever since I’ve wondered about what he thought of me initiating that. I’m getting better at processing what he says to be honest, but it’s taking practice to believe that he’s meaning what he’s saying..”you’re sexy, hot, etc..” I only partially believed him, but lately I’ve been just going with it & trusting. Again, not because he’s been untrustworthy, just my personal issues that try to take over & tell me he can’t possibly be serious! That sounds so bad! It’s been steadily improving though & being on here is REALLY helping as well! (Not to mention the inner work I’ve been doing to gain a healthier perspective regarding myself.) Thank you!!!!!!

Wives, your husbands really do find you to be sexy.  You see scars and sagging, and he sees years of growing older together.  You say you just don’t look the same as when you married him, he says you look better than ever.  Take a moment and look at yourself through your husband’s eyes.  Let him see you.  Be proud of who you are whether your clothes are on or off.

To read more from that forum post, go here.